IN MEMORIAM
Brod Federico "Eddie" Agnir
UP Diliman '57
January 7, 1939 - July 9, 2018
[Photos from Sis Aida Alapan-Banci]
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EULOGY FOR BROD EDDIE
AGNIR
by Aida Alapan-Banci, UPD Sigma Beta '56
July 12, 2018
One of the hardest things to
do is to say goodbye for the last time to a dear friend. Actually,
Eddie was not just a dear friend. He was my husband Elmer’s brod
twice; as a Betan and as a Mason, and being a Sigma Betan myself,
he was my brod too. Eddie
and his wife Ruby were our bosom friends in UP Diliman during our
student days from 1954 to 1959. We went to the same church, The
Church of the Risen Lord, and sang in the choir together until the
three of us, Eddie, Ruby and I graduated in 1959.
After leaving UP Diliman, the four of us
continued to see each other. When Elmer and I moved to Mindanao
for his first job, we would travel back and forth to Manila and
would drop by the Agnirs at Silliman University in Dumaguete City.
Then, the Agnirs migrated to the U.S. and for many years we did
not hear from each other. I believe it was God’s plan to allow our
paths to cross again and this time in California! Friendship with
Eddie and Ruby was God’s gift to us that kept on giving! The joys
of campus life extended to deeper joys of continuing a
relationship that grew across the years.
I enjoyed all their visits with us. For many
years, they would spend time with me, Elmer and other friends from
the UPYWCA every couple of years. Their music, both piano and
voice, would lift me up to the heavens! Both have been sensational
in sharing their passion for music and theatre arts.
Unfortunately, I have not watched any of their performances on
stage, but I know how successful they were in sharing their
talents on stage. At one time, Eddie was the leading role in “ The
King and I”.
Eddie was a man with many talents and he used
his exceptional abilities to serve the Lord. He could sing, he
could preach or deliver a message that touches your heart and he
could write! On his last visit with Ruby at my home on August
14,2013, he gave me a copy of one of his books entitled, “When God
Calls: A Faith-Journey Autobiography". I found this book very
well-written and extremely interesting! At the back of the book
are pictures of significant events in Eddie’s life. One of these
pictures was taken in 1959 with me, Elmer, Ruby and Eddie singing
“Blest Be the Tie That Binds” at the fellowship hall of the Church
of the Risen Lord. Over the years, God truly blest the tie that
bound us in our affection and love for each other.
One of Eddie’s passions after retirement was
to organize and lead “Tipon Silliman”, an alumni association of
Silliman students here and in the Philippines. He was also very
much involved with UPAAA. With Ruby, they did a lot of work to
make the association more visible to UP alumni. About 3 years ago,
I attended the reunion of UPAAA in San Diego with Ruby and Eddie
coming all the way from Florida. Both of them in their
mid-seventies, they exhibited untiring dedication to their Alma
Mater by leading in most of the activities for two days.
My campus life covered one of the most
memorable chapters of my earthly existence, partly made possible
by my friendship with Ruby and Eddie. I can say with all honesty
that my college years at UP Diliman would not be the same without
them. Sitting next to them in the chancel choir for many years,
listening to the same sermons and attending social gatherings with
them have touched my maturing years with multiple blessings. I
thank God that he brought Eddie into Elmer’s life and mine. I
thank God that he allowed Eddie to live a life that matters and to
share a part of that life with me and Elmer.
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Pictures
UP North Frat Ball, early 1990's
[from Sis Aida Alapan-Banci]
l-r: Elmer & Aida Banci, Ruby & Eddie Agnir.
*Seated: Ruby and Eddie Agnir. *Standing: Elmer Banci and Ed Cornelia.
Web note, from Norman Bituin:
Some months ago Brod Vic Ramos informed us that Brod Eddie Agnir was ill and asked us to offer our prayers for him. At that time I called Sis Aida Alapan-Banci, the widow of our departed Brod Elmer Banci UPD'57, DVM ('In Memoriam') if she could provide me with their pictures. When Brod Eddie passed away on July 9, I requested Sis Aida for a eulogy for Brod Eddie. She immediately wrote the eulogy and sent it to me for this publication.
I also purchased at Amazon Kindle Brod Eddie Agnir's well-reviewed autobiographical book. Below are some excerpts, specifically related to the frat, from "Chapter III: College at U.P.".
1) Going to other aspects of my life in U.P., I joined Beta
Sigma Fraternity, one of four prominent campus fraternities. I
joined a fraternity mainly for its snob value. It was commonly
recognized that some of the most prominent campus figures were
members of a fraternity or sorority. New frat members took delight
in wearing their fraternity pin in public and, as in the case of
their stateside counterparts, looked forward to the day when they
could “pin” their girlfriend. As an indication of their elitism,
frat men came up with a pejorative title for those who were not
members of a Greek society, calling them “barbarians.”
2) The two-year campus-wide election blackout affected me
personally. School year 1959-60 was going to be my year. The
summer before the opening of classes, some of my Beta Sigma
brothers approached me for my permission to be nominated as the
fraternity’s representative to the Junior Student Council should
student government be restored. In the years before the UPSCA
ascendancy, the Junior Student Council had been a Beta Sigma
bailiwick with a number of Beta Sigmans ascending to that
council’s presidency. Most of them were students at the College of
Veterinary Medicine where there was always a large percentage of
Beta Sigmans. I was told that the reason I was being groomed for
candidacy was that they regarded me as the fraternity’s “golden
boy,” which was their term for the one whom they considered the
most popular Beta Sigman on campus at the time.
Indeed, I was quite visible on campus. I was in my senior year
at the College of Liberal Arts and due to graduate that following
November. I had just been elected president of the UPCYM. The
previous semester, I represented Beta Sigma in the
inter-fraternity oratorical contest and ran the first-ever
inter-fraternity chess team tournament, which attracted press
coverage including weekly reports of the tournament’s progress in
the Philippine Collegian’s sports page. I was a charter member and
active participant of the U.P. Speech Association, a new
organization whose flagship project was the annual Speech
Festival, a week-long celebration that featured theater
presentations and competitions in impromptu speaking, oratory,
debate and other forensic events. I was also the head of the Jose
Abad Santos chapter of the Order of DeMolay and although DeMolay
was not a U.P. organization, more than 90% of the chapter’s
members were U.P. students.
3) Beta Sigma put forward my candidacy for the presidency of the
Kanlaon Residence Hall Association. My rivals were a couple of
students from the College of Law both of whom were frat men. Joe
de la Cruz was a Sigma Rhoan and Noel Laman was an Alpha Phi
Betan. The situation became somewhat reminiscent of the
competition between fraternities that featured student elections
of the past.
The campaign that followed was one of a kind. It was totally one-sided and almost embarrassingly so. My fraternity brothers and friends at the dormitory got so enthusiastic that one by one, they came up with all kinds of ideas to advertise my candidacy. In contrast, my opponents offered little or no answer. I had very little hand in either planning or directing my friends’ campaigning activity; most of it just happened spontaneously. Quirico Monje, a Beta Sigma brod, and co-alumnus of Ilocos Norte High School, started a media blitz. An Engineering student, he used ordinary everyday materials like a 45 RPM turntable, electrical wire and light bulbs to jerry-rig a neon flashing sign that read “AGNIR FOR PRESIDENT.” Mounted on three window panes from the second floor and facing the street in front of the dormitory, the sight of the three words flashing in succession was quite something to behold at night by bus passengers and by pedestrians on their way to the nearby local shopping place called “Little Quiapo.” Not to be outdone, Ellie Santiago, a Fine Arts student a DeMolay brod and fellow UPCYMian put up a poster at the entrance of the dorm on the day of the election. On it was a cartoon depicting the finish of a foot race with me dressed like Superman, cape and all, hitting the tape ahead of my two opponents. The caption read: "Make Way for Super-Agnir."
I enjoyed reading this book and would recommend it to the brods, especially to Brod Pastor Reyes, Brod Pastor Paul Chua and others in the ministry. It is interesting to note that Brod Eddie Agnir served as an associate minister at the Church of the Risen Lord in UP in 1967-68 before another Betan, Brod Bonifacio Mequi UPD'55. Brod Boni took over from Brod Eddie after getting his Master of Theology at Garrett Theological Seminary in Evanston, Illinois and serving as an associate pastor in a Methodist church in Iowa. Below are excerpts from "Chapter VI: Ministry at U.P.".
1)
One reason I enjoyed my time at the place was that I hardly needed to get adjusted. I was back home. The place was where Ruby and I met, sang together in the choir, dated and married. Half the faces were familiar. Among the church’s senior adult leaders that were still there were The Riveras, the Ensiedels, the Lansangs and the Mangahases, to mention a few. Some of my fellow UPCYMians of the 1950’s were now young adults and had become leaders of the church.
2) I was thrilled to be working with Boni. He and I were old friends, schoolmates, and CRL choir members in the mid 50’s. He was UPCYM president in the school year 1956-57 while I was editor of the UPCYMette. It was during his presidency that the UPCYM had an enjoyable and memorable retreat between semesters that was held in Lucena, Quezon. By staying an extra year, I provided the transition that helped Boni get acclimated to his new surroundings. We shared equally virtually every aspect of the work. We were co-advisors of the UPCYM and alternated at the pulpit. We also continued the past practice of sharing the parsonage.
Pictures from the Photo Gallery of the book
l-r: Elmer Banci, Aida Alapan, Ruby Ordinario and Eddie Agnir singing "Blest Be the Tie That Binds", UPCYM 1959.
*Pic 1: Wedding day, 1961. *Pic 2: Ordination, 1971. *Pic 3: "Shall We Dance" scene in "The King and I" (Eddie in lead role), 2003.
Receiving the Outstanding Sillimanian Award, 2005.
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Messages
We mourn the passing of Brod Federico Agnir, D57. He was my double brod in the DeMolay and Beta Sigma. He served as a protestant pastor in Florida where his bereaved family lives. May you rest in eternal peace, brother.
Vic Ramos
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Hi Brod Norman, our beloved Brod Eddie (Federico) Agnir passed away on the 9th. He is now with his Creator and probably he had a reunion with Elmer and Brod Mando.
Aida Banci
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Condolences to the bereaved family. Rest in peace Brod.
Humphrey Tumaneng
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RIP brod F. Agnir.. Our CONDOLENCES.
Ick Angeles
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Condolences.
Randy Malayao
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R I P Brod F Agnir.
Edgar Flores
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Sincere Condolences and Prayers.
Butch Madarang
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Condolence to the family.
Binji
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